Why We Should Love More I wrote this blog article as in counselling it is largely about relationship issues. About being hurt, upset about the way being treated, confused on how to go forward or trying to nut out how to keep a sense of loving thyself. I would be lying if I didn’t say […]
THE CORONA VIRUS AND HYPER AROUSAL I wonder is you are observing yourself with your reactions to the corona virus threat. Are you feeling anxious and at what level is it out of 10? It is natural for us to feel concerned for ourselves and others with this virus. The media are in full throttle […]
SHAME – WHAT IS IT AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT. When we are small children and do something wrong in front of our primary care givers, usually our parents, we cover our eyes with shame. We do this as adults in front of others too covering our eyes when embarrassed, usually uttering words or […]
Many clients come to see me because they report communication problems and are continually fighting without resolving anything. After each argument there is a time of feeling in a blue mood and later this turns to purple with depression and feelings of hopelessness. In time each partner eventually returns to a green zone of some […]
I know of couples that have been together for many years and still do not have a shared bank account. So how much do you financially share in a relationship? Well you could have a joint bank account for commonly used goods, like food and holidays. There are definite positive emotional outcomes for couples sharing […]
Frank wanted his life back. He had been spending hours, sometimes almost all his weekends, in front of his computer, feeling compelled to look at pornographic websites. At our first appointment, he spoke about the importance of ‘getting it out in the open’ and his hope that this might help. Thinking about how things had […]
TWO WAYS TO CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP FOR THE BETTER Do you feel communication is failing in your relationship? Are you sometimes walking on eggshells not saying what you really want to? Are there major issues that have never been resolved? Do you feel stuck or lonely in the relationship? Well let us consider two factors […]
BUSY STRESS OR PLEASANTLY FULL – HOW IS YOUR LIFE? I see many clients who report 10 to 12 hour workdays suffering either: stress, anxiety, depression or a breakdown in personal relationships but not wanting to reduce the corporate work commitments. They say they are happy working these hours, as they feel fulfilled. They are […]
HOW HEALTHY IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP? You have been in a relationship for a while however the way you are communicating with each other is not healthy or positive and you know it. And the reason is more than likely the relationship dynamic that has developed. Let me explain. The dynamic is the mental attitude and […]
INTERNALISING HURT WILL MAKE YOU MENTAL We are all guilty of it; internalizing hurts with problems in close relationships. Our mind seems happy to churn things over, day and night, inventing scenarios and stories on who is right or wrong. Exhausting stuff! Let’s say you have been criticized or put down by someone and you […]
